Today is the day when two become one
so they say
as they may
But he and she live above the clichés
Seamlessly
Side by side
He says
“My better three quarters”
She smiles
revealing the mirrored truth
Together they are more than one
forever better; forever fitted
She says
“let’s travel the world”
He smiles
Vowing a shared compass
Together they are the world
Forged landscapes; finding dreams
He and she stare at the same sky
Knowing their mirrored compass will
always answer.
I do.
I will.
Forever.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Sunday, August 22, 2010
I had lunch with a good friend weeks ago and what she meant as somewhat of a passing comment ended up burying itself inside my skin and has burned there ever since. She looked through me as if she had just turned the key to my core and said, "You're not as together as I thought you were... You always seem so confident." These words were uttered in the tone of someone commenting on the dry humid weather we were enduring, except it isn't the atmosphere in question...it's my character.
together.
confident.
seem.
These words swam around each other and messed with my psyche, striking me inarticulate. At that moment the waitress came with our drinks and the conversation naturally moved, but I didn't. Which no doubt proves her point, I'm certainly not together and am still forever working on the confidence card. And to be honest, I'm somewhat surprised to have ever given that impression in the first place.
My heart travels to the shakers of the facade and finds fear. I fear that they'll always leave, because they always do. I fear my worth because of the need to look elsewhere for its confirmation. I fear truth because despite mutual commitment there are always borders and limits. I fear imitation because of habit.
I'm 25 years old. And if you were to ask another good friend of mine, that's not old enough, nor do I have the status (like one of a first lady per say) to have any reason to write about my life or my thoughts. This opinion is probably largely due to the fact that the blog/memoir writing process reads as a service more for the self than the audience which can alienate people who rightly feel they deserve more. After all, they are giving their time and energy. They are engaging just to be treated like a brick wall.
Listen up wall. I'm talking to with you.
Faking confidence is worse than not having any; to be vulnerable is courageous. I'm embarrassed that it took a mediocre movie (ahem: Eat pray Love) to encourage the contemplation.
Here's to burning words
to open cores
to feeling the fear and doing it, being it, loving it, overcoming it anyway.
together.
confident.
seem.
These words swam around each other and messed with my psyche, striking me inarticulate. At that moment the waitress came with our drinks and the conversation naturally moved, but I didn't. Which no doubt proves her point, I'm certainly not together and am still forever working on the confidence card. And to be honest, I'm somewhat surprised to have ever given that impression in the first place.
My heart travels to the shakers of the facade and finds fear. I fear that they'll always leave, because they always do. I fear my worth because of the need to look elsewhere for its confirmation. I fear truth because despite mutual commitment there are always borders and limits. I fear imitation because of habit.
I'm 25 years old. And if you were to ask another good friend of mine, that's not old enough, nor do I have the status (like one of a first lady per say) to have any reason to write about my life or my thoughts. This opinion is probably largely due to the fact that the blog/memoir writing process reads as a service more for the self than the audience which can alienate people who rightly feel they deserve more. After all, they are giving their time and energy. They are engaging just to be treated like a brick wall.
Listen up wall. I'm talking to with you.
Faking confidence is worse than not having any; to be vulnerable is courageous. I'm embarrassed that it took a mediocre movie (ahem: Eat pray Love) to encourage the contemplation.
Here's to burning words
to open cores
to feeling the fear and doing it, being it, loving it, overcoming it anyway.
Monday, July 12, 2010
life is like a box of chocolates
I had a history professor who once voiced his opinion on the great American drama, “Forrest Gump” by saying, “I liked the movie just fine, but what I don’t understand is why Hanks had to have a mental handicap?” The professor expanded on his frustration noting that if one of the purposes of the movie is to convey American history, through an American’s perspective, why that voice? What larger commentary is at play?
His questions popped into my head as I watched segments of the film the other night as it was on TV and as absolutely nothing else was on TV. And I mean nothing. I’m not much of a TV-watcher, so I realize that this lens is limited; however, I was left flipping between the movie and “America’s got talent.” Oddly enough, both shows could work their way into a hearty discussion concerning media commentary on all things American, that is, if I were ever to encounter that professor again, and he would remember me, and remember the comments, and perhaps also have an affection for lattes. Until then…
YES DRILL SERGEANT screams from my set. And like so many of the scenes from this movie, the Vietnam ones have stuck with me. Whenever the film is referenced my mind jumps to and from a variety of moments and dialogue, though invariably, Forrest's service to the military is forefront. I don’t know why. I’ve never been particularly passionate about war. I’m rather sure that had I been born in another generation I would be bra-less, in a tie-dye dress, ferociously smoking and wildly dancing to “I am the walrus” ultimately filled with a higher purpose of preaching peace and love.
Yet it's 2010, and I adore my undergarments (though play "I am the walrus" and I can't say there wouldn't be dancing). I re-watch with heroic admiration as Forrest pulls his rank out of the flaming bushes and bramble and runs them to “safety” yet where they will suffer in complete agony (I still groan and throw my body at the sight of the soldier’s skin flapped up over his face, where it looks like a phony Mrs. Doubtfire mask, except this guy can’t call up his gay brother to make him a new one. The left side of my face burns in sympathy pains.) When Forrest goes back into the danger zone for his fifth or sixth time, hoping to discover his shrimp-talking-friend-Bubba, he happens to stumble upon frantic, dire, dying, Lt. Dan.
Even though the images of explosions, injured men and the very last conversation Forrest has with Bubba were retained in my memory, I sheepishly admit that I had forgotten a very important subplot that negates a major relationship within the film: Lt. Dan’s legacy. His father’s and his father's father, and his father's father's father…you get it…had died in every American War. It was Lt. Dan's destiny to die under the American air raid that Forrest subsequently saves him from.
Being saved from your destiny is a complicated notion. And when I wonder whether or not it was the "right" thing, for Forrest to save Lt. Dan, it all comes down to the way you look at it. His road to recovery afterward was anything but pretty; however he marries at the end and is able to benefit from improving technology that provides him with metal legs and thus the return of some normalcy. At that point, does Lt. Dan consider himself saved, or does he still feel robbed?
Most would argue that there isn’t any use in entertaining these dialogues, especially as we relate them to real life, questioning what we did or what we should have done, said or should have said, etc. and how it would have all turned out differently had we...etc. Most would argue that whatever is done is done and all you have is the present…so move on.
What happens though when you don't have a present to move on to? Recently I've lost a relationship in my life. It's a complicated one. And while I watched this film, and listened to the cries of Lt. Dan, I wondered, from her perspective, what did she think we were "supposed to be." You could say that Lt. Dan and Forrest Gump have vastly different perspectives on life at the beginning of their relationship. Overtime, Lt. Dan seems to do more of the conforming, he isn't as angry or intense and he seems to appreciate the life that he has, even though it's not the one that he thought he would have.
I wonder, I hope, I even sometimes pray to a god I'm not sure exists, that she might one day change the way she feels. That even though it didn't all happen like perhaps we thought it would, there would still be something there worth valuing.
Until then...you never know what you're going to get.
His questions popped into my head as I watched segments of the film the other night as it was on TV and as absolutely nothing else was on TV. And I mean nothing. I’m not much of a TV-watcher, so I realize that this lens is limited; however, I was left flipping between the movie and “America’s got talent.” Oddly enough, both shows could work their way into a hearty discussion concerning media commentary on all things American, that is, if I were ever to encounter that professor again, and he would remember me, and remember the comments, and perhaps also have an affection for lattes. Until then…
YES DRILL SERGEANT screams from my set. And like so many of the scenes from this movie, the Vietnam ones have stuck with me. Whenever the film is referenced my mind jumps to and from a variety of moments and dialogue, though invariably, Forrest's service to the military is forefront. I don’t know why. I’ve never been particularly passionate about war. I’m rather sure that had I been born in another generation I would be bra-less, in a tie-dye dress, ferociously smoking and wildly dancing to “I am the walrus” ultimately filled with a higher purpose of preaching peace and love.
Yet it's 2010, and I adore my undergarments (though play "I am the walrus" and I can't say there wouldn't be dancing). I re-watch with heroic admiration as Forrest pulls his rank out of the flaming bushes and bramble and runs them to “safety” yet where they will suffer in complete agony (I still groan and throw my body at the sight of the soldier’s skin flapped up over his face, where it looks like a phony Mrs. Doubtfire mask, except this guy can’t call up his gay brother to make him a new one. The left side of my face burns in sympathy pains.) When Forrest goes back into the danger zone for his fifth or sixth time, hoping to discover his shrimp-talking-friend-Bubba, he happens to stumble upon frantic, dire, dying, Lt. Dan.
Even though the images of explosions, injured men and the very last conversation Forrest has with Bubba were retained in my memory, I sheepishly admit that I had forgotten a very important subplot that negates a major relationship within the film: Lt. Dan’s legacy. His father’s and his father's father, and his father's father's father…you get it…had died in every American War. It was Lt. Dan's destiny to die under the American air raid that Forrest subsequently saves him from.
Being saved from your destiny is a complicated notion. And when I wonder whether or not it was the "right" thing, for Forrest to save Lt. Dan, it all comes down to the way you look at it. His road to recovery afterward was anything but pretty; however he marries at the end and is able to benefit from improving technology that provides him with metal legs and thus the return of some normalcy. At that point, does Lt. Dan consider himself saved, or does he still feel robbed?
Most would argue that there isn’t any use in entertaining these dialogues, especially as we relate them to real life, questioning what we did or what we should have done, said or should have said, etc. and how it would have all turned out differently had we...etc. Most would argue that whatever is done is done and all you have is the present…so move on.
What happens though when you don't have a present to move on to? Recently I've lost a relationship in my life. It's a complicated one. And while I watched this film, and listened to the cries of Lt. Dan, I wondered, from her perspective, what did she think we were "supposed to be." You could say that Lt. Dan and Forrest Gump have vastly different perspectives on life at the beginning of their relationship. Overtime, Lt. Dan seems to do more of the conforming, he isn't as angry or intense and he seems to appreciate the life that he has, even though it's not the one that he thought he would have.
I wonder, I hope, I even sometimes pray to a god I'm not sure exists, that she might one day change the way she feels. That even though it didn't all happen like perhaps we thought it would, there would still be something there worth valuing.
Until then...you never know what you're going to get.
Friday, June 18, 2010
the world
I told her to look up. Given the choice, I say, always look up. With my finger I traced the outline of an upside down elephant and his misshapen trunk. In between her gasps and sobs she said she saw it and wondered if I saw her dinosaur to the left of my elephant. The clouds were on the move so I lied, worried that I would miss it anyway. "Oh...yeah" I said and she seemed satisfied. The game had momentarily taken her mind off of the fact that she couldn't breathe, but she was back at it again. "I'm going to die. And I just keep thinking about how my dog died, and about how my grandmother died five years ago..." She wanted something from me. I laid back on the hot, prickly grass that poked my arms and neck like needles. "Look at them...one second an elephant, the next a dinosaur, the next..."
If you give anything time, it can be something else.
"And you, you have all the time in the world."
If you give anything time, it can be something else.
"And you, you have all the time in the world."
Thursday, April 22, 2010
get out to get in
The woman behind the words is a recovering dependent, finding solace here, in these lines and pages.
Replacing one with another, I don't think they call this progress.
Lost between worlds living all loving none and when it stops all that remains is edges frayed
Finding comfort in consistency of this and that though there is nothing comforting about THAT consistency.
Wanting to test how much they care(at the risk of never finding out). Instead,
I sip my bourgeois brand of tea coupled with a reduced-fat coffee cake and wonder, just how commercial will life get?
His voice is therapy sought. Singing the pieces back from the cracks where life touches our fingertips.
Replacing one with another, I don't think they call this progress.
Lost between worlds living all loving none and when it stops all that remains is edges frayed
Finding comfort in consistency of this and that though there is nothing comforting about THAT consistency.
Wanting to test how much they care(at the risk of never finding out). Instead,
I sip my bourgeois brand of tea coupled with a reduced-fat coffee cake and wonder, just how commercial will life get?
His voice is therapy sought. Singing the pieces back from the cracks where life touches our fingertips.
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